Do you truly believe that you can create anything in your life?

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Or are you a victim to pre-destined fate and the actions of others?

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In order to create the life of your dreams, to manifest your own reality, you will need the Strength, Courage and Will to look deep inside yourself and take total responsibility for your life?

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Total Accountability.

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We do create every life situation from choosing our parents, the city we live in, our children, when we stop working and even the day we die. These are just bits of all the moment by moment options we have in the understanding of total accountability.

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When we are being completely honest with ourselves and living from our own personal truth in any given moment, when we are thinking, being and acting from our connection to and from within Divine Source, that Energy that is Everything (God as you know her);

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You realize that everything is exactly as it should be in this moment. Divine Order.

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Total Accountability means taking complete responsibility for one’s life and every situation that has taken place to this moment in time. This is not an easy concept for many to come to terms with, especially when facing or having faced huge life challenges like illness and loss of loved ones.

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We do though always have a choice in acting from the perspective of being a victim of chance and fate, Or, in take responsibility for our lives.

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As a victim, we have choices regarding how we might feel. Either we throw in the towel, give up and walk away never addressing the issue, feel defeated by life’s fate, or fight back by creating a battle against who or what made us the victim. Being that none of these perspectives address the issue of being a victim (though lots of blame is kicked around) and how to avoid those situations in the future, the scenario will continue to rise again moving forward in one’s life.

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If on the other hand you believe in total accountability, you understand that in every situation no matter how bad you feel or felt, or what it seemed may have been done to you, it was in fact a circumstance that you created in order to gain some sort of “payoff.” Some life perk. A gift of growth in some manner for your personal, interpersonal or spiritual journey.

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Some of the perks might be to build your Ego, make money, acquire things, manipulate others, learn a specific life lesson, feel in charge, to become stronger in some manner, to think clearer, to become more intuitive, push you to achieve large goals or even a reason to avoid achieving and moving your life forward.

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Though difficult at times, it is from acceptance and understanding of why you have created even what may seem to be a bad or even horrible situation, there was something positive, an important “pay off” you were gaining. These payoffs in some way support you not moving forward or in opposite, to make a positive change that advances your achieving life objectives. It may be a physical, emotional or spiritual perk. There will always be some-thing you will or were getting out of every situation.

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Now with the knowledge and understanding of how you created a particular situation especially a negative one, you will also have the tools to never do it again, or adjust the way think, act and behave in order to gain different and more positive outcomes. Manifesting a bigger and better life dream may be the payoff.

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Life situations that create the feeling of being a victim can be really difficult to look into. There are many hard examples and I will give one here in the lightest way possible. Just to be clear, taking responsibility as a victim in any type of situation never condones the behavior of someone acting inappropriately with another human being. In using a relationship as an example addresses the fact that there are two completely unique and different people present in what would ideally be a cooperative setting. Two stories. Two manifested realities that are mal-aligned. Without judging one as good or bad, we want to look at why each person might have created a mal-aligned relationship.

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Let us take a parent who is physically abusive, verbally abusive and un-supportive in every way to a child they raise. You probably know and adult who grew up under such conditions or even be someone who was raised in this scenario. Without needing to go into the details of this type of child abuse, let’s instead look at the results.

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Some of those children as grew into adulthood, living as a victim to the parental abuse. These adults may have issues like a lack in confidence, low self-esteem, fear of relationships, fear of men or women depending on the abuser, never really feel like they are good enough at anything, low motivation, maybe abusive in relationships themselves.

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Others adults raised in the same way growing up, may have used these behaviors as a reason to transcend that type of relationship becoming the exact opposite. Successful to the nth degree, kind, loving, caring, generous and supportive adults, successful in all aspects of life.

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It’s all about perspective.

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Now here’s the hard part for some people who live in victim situations. To ask “why would I have chosen a to have an abusive parent?” What was the payoff?

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It seems easy to understand the payoff for the adults who transcended the abusive upbringing and created great life successes. Though still many of them may carry related feelings like anger, fear, anxiety and relationship issues. In these situations, it is ideal to realize that without those parents, you would not have been the success you are. You chose that situation and benefited from being raised that way. Now it is time to let go of any “feelings” around those situations. It’s past. Let it go. Enjoy the positive aspects of what you gained and continue to move forward being the best person you could become.

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Now on the other hand, an abusive upbringing my have been used as an excuse for not being successful, being depressed, to abusive to my family and friends, to not do well in school, or hold a job, or avoid a healthy mature a relationship. It may also have been to learn compassion, to understand people, or become intuitive

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Bottom line is there are innumerous potential payoffs in any life situation that you might feel a victim to.

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The good news is, that in understanding the reasons we may have chosen a life situation where we may have felt the victim, and we can realize the “payoffs,” we can also say “Okay, I see what I was getting out of that, and now I know how to prevent anything similar happening in the future.” I can see what I need to do to turn my life around. I do not need that kind of attention. I have learned that lesson, I don not have to have “feelings” about it anymore, nor do I need type of payoff.

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Even in some of the most horrible events that life has presented. I’d be glad to address any specific issues here in the blog if requested or privately if someone is having trouble gaining perspective on a life situation.*From this point, we make choices that are aligned with truth, honesty and integrity of who we are and who we are going to become.

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Take the lesson. Forgive, let go of unproductive feelings, and attract and create the positive life journey you would like.

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What is most important now is to not be attached to a situation where you might be feeling a victim, past or present. Consider where you are standing in this moment. Understand where you are in your life at this very moment. Be conscious of whatever you may be thinking right now as a new launching point. For creating your life dreams from the perspective of creatively and intentionally manifesting it rather than being a victim to fate or other people’s actions.

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It’s all about what you do from this moment forward. Do not let the past or being a victim freeze you in your tracks.

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Take responsibility for what you create in your life, and move forward from here…

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Release yourself from the weight of all events prior to this moment and take joy in all the possibilities of what lies ahead.

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The options are endless.

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Make opportunities rather than reacting to accidents.

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There are no Accidents.

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There is unending opportunity for creation and growth.

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Be Inspired!

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Live Life’s Joy!

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Dr. Robin L. Futoran

drfutoran@inspirednmotivated.com

http://www.inspirednmotivated.com

 

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